Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Love is worth the effort.

Loving someone is not easy. You have to undergo a lot of stages of developing your feelings with someone.

The first stage is ATTRACTION. It is a positive response to a person beyond friendship. This first stage can further be broken down in two areas: a.) Physical Attraction. This happens when your body reacts to another person. Increase in heart rate; temperature rises, palms get sweaty;stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. b.)Emotional Attraction. This develops next if the situation are right. However, this can also occur even when a physical attraction does not. The bond may even be stronger between the two who connect, because the love each other even though they start out as "strangers" and not as "friends".

The second stage is ROMANCE.

It is an act of trying to influence or gain favor of another by giving attention of gifts to him/her.

Two types of romance:

  • Selfish Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts solely for the purpose of gaining something for yourself, like to get gifts or to impress someone else.
  • Selfless Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts for the enjoyment and pleasure of your partner. You receive your enjoyment and pleasure through their happiness.

The third stage is PASSION. The passion stage is very important. From here, the desire for another person has grown to the point that can't be ignored, and the couple must decide which path to take. The relationship might end up or must move on to the next stage.

The fourth stage is the INTIMACY. This is the stage where you become so open with each other. You share your thoughts, your feelings, your dreams. *You cannot undergo this stage in an instant. It is a developing process., which never ends. If you can't establish intimacy, with your partner your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to last throughout the years.

The final stage is the COMMITMENT. It is a promise to remain true to your mate through good and bad times. Commitment is easy when times are good. Commitment can be extremely difficult when times are bad. Learn to ride out the bad times.

If you have made it this far why give up? Listen and try to understand each other, so you can avoid having problems that might threaten your relationship. Love is worth the effort.

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