Long distance relationship.

Nowadays, many people are engaged in a long distance relationship. The fact that you cannot see your love one every time you wanted to makes it difficult for the both of you to keep your relationship stay longer. There are lots of things that one must do and lots that one must not do in order to rescue and sustain a long distance relationship.

1. Practice respect, honestly and trust your partner and yourself. Listening in a caring and honest manner is a crucial component for facilitating trust with your partner. You should voluntarily offer information and communicate with empathy so that your partner will feel secure and prompted to open up as well.
2. Frequent communications is an important element of long distance relationships. Every relationship is different, but the advantage of talking or checking in with your partner at least once each day can provide a stabilizing force to a relationship but often may be difficult due to different schedules, responsibilities, or time-zones.
3. Bonding and nurturing emotional intimacy questions means being there for each other: "What was the most exciting/annoying part of your day? How are you feeling about us now?"
4. Making use of different technology. Couples are not limited to phone calls. To add an element of surprise and spice to your long distance relationship, make the effort to send your partner a short email or text message expressing your feelings or just a sweet and simple "I love you". Writing letters via "snail-mail" can be romantic and also a keepsake memento for those times you're both feeling lonely or missing each other or a surprise for a special occasion.
5. Maintain a sense of humor with your partner is essential in sharing in blunders of miscommunication and being able to laugh at your situation together.
6. Maintain a good personal boundaries and limits and talking about realistic expectations creates greater comfort and a sense of security and doesn't lead to mixed messages or signals. Keep in mind to end your conversations with appreciations, hopes and desires for the present and near future. This helps strengthen your coping abilities with the situation.

Love is worth the effort.

Loving someone is not easy. You have to undergo a lot of stages of developing your feelings with someone.

The first stage is ATTRACTION. It is a positive response to a person beyond friendship. This first stage can further be broken down in two areas: a.) Physical Attraction. This happens when your body reacts to another person. Increase in heart rate; temperature rises, palms get sweaty;stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. b.)Emotional Attraction. This develops next if the situation are right. However, this can also occur even when a physical attraction does not. The bond may even be stronger between the two who connect, because the love each other even though they start out as "strangers" and not as "friends".

The second stage is ROMANCE.

It is an act of trying to influence or gain favor of another by giving attention of gifts to him/her.

Two types of romance:

• Selfish Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts solely for the purpose of gaining something for yourself, like to get gifts or to impress someone else.
• Selfless Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts for the enjoyment and pleasure of your partner. You receive your enjoyment and pleasure through their happiness.

The third stage is PASSION. The passion stage is very important. From here, the desire for another person has grown to the point that can't be ignored, and the couple must decide which path to take. The relationship might end up or must move on to the next stage.

The fourth stage is the INTIMACY. This is the stage where you become so open with each other. You share your thoughts, your feelings, your dreams. *You cannot undergo this stage in an instant. It is a developing process., which never ends. If you can't establish intimacy, with your partner your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to last throughout the years.

The final stage is the COMMITMENT. It is a promise to remain true to your mate through good and bad times. Commitment is easy when times are good. Commitment can be extremely difficult when times are bad. Learn to ride out the bad times.

If you have made it this far why give up? Listen and try to understand each other, so you can avoid having problems that might threaten your relationship. Love is worth the effort.

"You cannot serve two masters in one time."

This saying is true. It is really hard for us to serve two people at the same time. God created us, people who only have one body, one brain, and most especially, one heart.

Loving two persons at the same time is like serving two people in one time. It is really complicated. Some people fall in love with another person even if they are already committed. Some will say that they are searching for something missing in their present love life and the other person fills it out. And as we all know, this is not right. But, what is the best thing to do in the situation like this? These are some of the things I think you should do:

You should think hard and decide who between the two of them is the one you really love. You would get to the point that you would say that they're just equal, but that is impossible; think again. Maybe the other one is the one you really love but you just don't know it right now. Just wait for the right time and you will discover it. You cannot love both of them. You SHOULD REALLY CHOOSE ONE. Also know if those people love you back or if they know that you love another person rather than just him/her.

In loving two people at the same time, others may consider you two-timer. They might get mad at you and hate you so you really need to do something about it. Take your time. Always think twice before doing something. Remember this, loving is a great thing only if it is in the right time and the right person.

Don't be in a relationship if you're gonna act single.

Ibblog ko kase sobrang naiinis ako ngayon srsly!

Ang hirap sa mga lalake magaling lang sila manligaw, pero pag sinagot na sila balewala na naman. I mean, nakalimutan na nila yung responsibility nila as a boyfriend. Nakakalimutan nilang may commitment sila. Parang nakakainsulto lang sa mga babae diba, nagtiwala sila tapos ganon ganon na lang yun pag nakuha na nila yung loob ng babae. Sa una pakitang gilas pa yang mga lalakeng yan, pero pag tumatagal na nakakalimutan na may mga girlfriend sila. Pasarap buhay sila. Di ko sinasabe na lahat ng oras nila ay dun lang sa babae, pero sana gawin nila yung responsibility nila as a boyfriend. Hindi yung kayo na nga, umaarte ka na parang wala kang girlfriend. Gagawin mo lahat ng gusto mo, like pag gusto mo umalis with your friends aalis ka ng walang paalam. Ang mga babae maarte yan pero nilalagay naman sa lugar. Gusto ng mga babae mas pagtuunan mo siyang pansin. Hindi yung parang lagi na lang balewala. One more thing, pag nambabae yung lalake. sana di ka na lang nanligaw, sana di mo na lang pinaniwala yung girl na gusto mo siya. Kung di mo naman din siya sesryosohin para san pa. Nakasakit ka pa diba!

Ang mga lalaki malaki ang rsponsibility nyan. Lalo na kung may anak na, alam na niya dapat niyang ikilos. Wala na yung feeling single pa din. Kase dapat ang focus nila nasa family na niya. Hindi sa friends or sa sarili niya. AAt some point, syempe kailangan din nila ng social life diba. Pero dapat alam nila yung limitations nila.

Di ako galit sa lalake. May boyfriend na ko and my baby na kame. Nagblog lang ako about dyan kase nararanasan ko yan ngayon. Gusto ko na matuto siya sa mga ginagawa niya.

Yun lang po ang gusto ko iparating! Hee =))

Romance

It is an act of trying to influence or gain favor of another by giving attention of gifts to him/her.

Two types of romance:

• Selfish Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts solely for the purpose of gaining something for yourself, like to get gifts or to impress someone else.
• Selfless Romance - it occurs when you do romantic acts for the enjoyment and pleasure of your partner. You receive your enjoyment and pleasure through their happiness.

Breaking-up.

Everyone finds a perfect person whom they hopelessly fall in love with and live happily ever after but we know in some instances, we have to end the relationship.

Possible causes of a couple’s break-up? Here’s some.

• They simply are not happy with each other anymore.
• They found someone “better” besides his/her present boy/girlfriend.
• Busy schedules.
• No communication.
• One of them is cheating.
• Being too different.
• No trust.
• Everybody is against to your relationship.
• You are “falling out of love”.
• Both wanted to end their relationship.
• You cannot understand each other anymore.
• Your partner does not give you importance and always sets you aside.

Tips to help you move on.

Breaking-up with someone is really a painful thing. But, it is not the end of your life and you have to move on.

• First of all, accept the fact that your relationship is over.
• Think that he/she is not the only person in the world.
• Make yourself busy.
• Go out with friends. Have fun. Meet new people.
• Always think positive.
• Think that God have greater plans for you and He is always at your side.
• Have someone you can talk to.
• Sort out things with your ex-boy/girlfriend.
• Concentrate on other things.
• Think of a brighter day ahead you.